Love is in the air

Been a long time I haven't written anything on this blog. Was busy thinking what I was doing in my life..Initially thought I had a break up so was just trying to focus on rest of the things to ensure I do not fall in this love trap ever again..But you know Love is something which you cannot plan in life..They say, we chose Friends ourselves but Love choses us.

And loving someone unconditional is something which is really a divine feel however equally difficult to follow..actually really difficult to do, whatever you think about the person you love expectations will always creep through making the love conditional..This magnificent life is filled with opportunities to experience love, respect, peace and joy.. When we, as individuals, realize our potential to love unconditionally, we transform ourselves.. Such is the amazingness of love we wield every moment.. The choice is ours to create a world of joy and happiness, love and respect..

Actually its very simple, you just love someone and do not expect anything in return, but how's that possible?? Right from the day we were born, we loved our parents for all the expectations we had from them. And now you all will think that I have gone crazy writing about this unconditional love with no return on investment.. We are limitless to our thoughts and feelings in life and can create any reality we choose to focus upon. There are infinite imaginative options when we allow the freedom to go beyond our defined limits. If we can dream it, we can build it. Life, through unconditional love, is a wondrous adventure that fulfills the very core of our being and lights our path with delight.

All I could derive is that there is nothing wrong in falling in love with anyone but if you end up finding it as single sided affair, that's the best time to make love to yourself as self love is the purest form of love without any demands and expectations..

Keep falling in love, its in the air but make sure you do not end up broken hearted..Always remember there is definitely someone who loves you more than your love to the other person, and that person can be you..yourself...Make sure you end up being with the one who loves you rather then the one you love..I guess that's the mantra for Happyness :)

Love you all..

Rajan

4 Toughest words a guy would hear in his life...

What are the toughest 4 words you ever hear as a guy when it comes to relationships? If you ignore statements associated with death and extreme financial misfortune, i think the list would probably include "I think i'm gay", "She's dating someone else", "What happened last night?" and the ever so expensive, "I think i'm pregnant". However, none of them are used as often or have devastated more lives (especially those of nerds) ..

"I like you...but"

This statement, which would even make god say "Fuck it, i'm leaving it to Satan"

Here are the ways women fill these blanks and what they actually mean.

Only as a friend = Here you lower your standards and find someone in your league

I don't want to ruin the friendship = Here you realize you already ruined the friendship

I'm not ready to make the emotional commitment = I don't think you are worthy of sleeping with me

The distance between us is too much and it wont work out = I don't care enough to want to make it work out and I am not confident in front of a webcam or Texting..

I was promised to someone as a child (Okay i made this one up - but it'll be hilarious if someone came up with this - alongwith I'm a Manglik and you are not)

Every guy gets the "I like you...but" line atleast once in his life. I have as well (Guess which one) and without a doubt it is the most pissing off, annoying, humiliatingly ridiculous moment of embarassment that one can ever experience. If I were to just do a sample survey of all the nerds in my school or college who got this line I am sure the results will be startling.

I personally feel it was one of the single largest reasons that so many chaps never managed to become more confident later in life, deal with co-ed situations more effectively and distinguish their brains from their sexual desires.

And for those who are lucky, they get it even when they grow up - as the "Don't call us, we'll call you" line. (It was invented by the "I like you...but" inventors cousin). Of-course, you never really get the call. But you try anyway just thinking maybe some good will come off it.

So whats the solution? I don't know. May be you guys can help me finding a solution for this..

Waiting for your replies and comments ..

Rajan

My expectations from you..

I still remember those days when we used to fight every other day to see who was stronger amongst us..make the house a mess and cleaning everything the moment mom or dad were back at home..watching TV and practicing the dance or the stunts together..flying kites in evening and you showing me the tricks of kite flying...fighting to become the favorite Pokemon character..Me getting all those awards and prizes and you getting jealous of the situation..I still remember the day you broke the First Trophy of my life..Still I just want to say that it is you whom I loved the most in my life..You are my everything and I miss you a lot ..

With great Relationships comes great expectations too..Though, the fact is that I love you a lot, I hold a lot of expectations from you towards me and our family. I know I am very harsh on not speaking to you for this while you need me the most. I just want to say that think positively at the moment about the sacrifices our parents did for us and the promises that we did to each other..I know I may not be the real idol for you because of the steps that I took against the choices of you and family but still all the thoughts still linger in my mind and I still aspire to weave everything back to the best of the possibilities..

Things are still the same and you are still the closest to this heart..Feel the rhythm inside and make the family proud by meeting all the expectations..Life is for once and one has to ensure that one achieves the maximum in the given shot..Let me share a few poetic words for you..I am sure once you read this, you will get to know how much my love is for you and how much I miss you ....

my brother's so sweet
in times of need he is there

my brother's so responsible
he taught me a lot of things

my brother's so funny
we even teared from laughing

my brother's so fierce
don't mess with him when his angry

my brother fell inlove
and he's very very happy

my brother made up his mind
and had a nice sweet family

my brother is away
i'm sad when i think of it

but my brother's heart is good
and i know he will never forget me.

I wish you a great success in future and hope to see the bright colors of success in your life..

Love you lots my Pikachu..

Rajan

New Post

Hello Friends,

Suggest something really fun and interesting which you all want me to write about...I want to write about something which is of a common interest to all..So please do comment your favourite topic as early as possible so that you can get to read more about it...

Thanks and Love

Rajan

What do you want - a J or a G ??

Hello Friends,

I am about to discuss the importance of the two most important colors of our life (J and G), I know by now you would have guessed that J stands for Joy and G stands for God right? The two most important things that our parents taught us to pursue, like they said, Baccheee always try to stay in a state of JOY and remember GOD.

Fortunately I don't want to bore you all with this heavy stuff as being presently only 23 years old, I am tempted to pursue more boiled down stuff starting with J and G --- guess now----Bingo---- ya a good Job and a good Girl. While pursuing this question, I am always made to wonder what do you want - a J or a G?

While there is so much online support to find both a good job (via - monster, jobpilot, stepstone, Social networking) and for a good girl Girl ( via-Shaadi.com, Matrimonial sites, Facebook, Orkut, Family etc). It does not lessen the struggle by even a 1 percent as more options make it more confusing to choose the way to go for the search. Normally people go all out by choosing and trying out in all possible ways.

Q: How does one apply to get a Job?
A: One looks for an open position in companies websites or use contacts to get in touch with Human resource, or upload resume in one of Job search engines like ( Monster - however this name doesn't suggest any upcoming help for Jobs).

But did you ever imagine how similar the above process is when you search a good girl for your life, like one looks for a girl who is looking for marriage in matrimonial sites, use friends and relatives to get in touch with good girls in their social circle, or upload their hope in one of the Matrimonial sites like ( Shaadi.com - they have full product range custom made for Indian market, all communities can find people of different cast, groups and sexes + 24*7 customer support, the only thing missing there is after sales services and 100 percent quality guarantee of their products.)

Lets assume that in both cases the hunter (seeker of J and G) manages to make his application reach to the Human resource manager (HRM), in Girls case, its the Girls DAD acting as a HRM. Both HRM will scrutinize the application and look for the following details:
What is the education level of the candidate?
How many languages he speaks (father searches for his mother tongue in this section)
Is the motivation real to join this company ( for father - to join his family).
How compatible is the qualification with the job (father- compatibility with the girl)
After passing this grueling test, one gets the chance to meet the real manager under whom you will be working (offcourse at home the Girl will be the manager), then both the manager and candidate discuss about their expectations with each other like:
Office manager asks to the candidate how much can you travel for the job, Girl asks how much will you travel alone and how much with me (holidaying)?
Office manager asks, how will you handle extra projects which will increase you work load?, Girl asks, the same about the responsibility and pressure of handling of extra projects (Kids)?
Office Manager asks, where do you see yourself 5 years from now?, Girl asks, where and will you see other girls from now on?
So you can see from the explanation, that the process of finding J and G is almost the same, the only difference is in between the risk factor of making the wrong decision, as one can easily change the J but changing G after commitment is not easy at all. I think at any given day, finding a right girl is much much harder than finding the right job.

BUT Guys one last message, having a good job should be our first Dream because no HRM likes jobless as they are not sexy enough for the open position (GIRL).

Don't you think, its always great to impress the HRM (Father) to impress the real Manager (Girl), what say guys, will you share your thoughts on this???

Life In Bangalore :)

Hey Guys,

I am back with something which I feel will be really interesting for all of us specially those who are a part of my life here in the garden city or rather the pub city of India, which is Bangalore...Well, we all came here to pursue a degree called MBA, so would rather start off with the nice song which is Papa Kehte hain Bada Naam karega, from the Aamir Khan movie..but the moment I or rather we landed up here, all the dreams and thoughts slowly got faded as we started humming an entirely new song...******** sutta na mila...Most of us started our smoking and drinking career here and have also reached aspiring heights in such a short span of time..

Let me start again from the scratch....And one more important thing to inform is that ...All the characters in this are absolutely real and they are absolutely linked to all the incidents that are mentioned in this blog....The initial days were quite interesting..we were not aware as to how each person was..talking abt their behaviour and beliefs...There were very less talks initially and everyone was looking for their comfort zones..Few of them were only comfortable with their room mates only if they were from the same zone..ie, part of India..There were few who were furious too with their counterparts if they belonged to opposite part of India..Everyday, we used to listen to stories abt the flaws of one or the other..Gradually, we started to gel up..not to mention cigarettes and drinks was an important element who made this all possible..

I still remember those days..when we used to drink beer and fill the bottles again and keep it outside Pankaj Kumar Jha's room and early morning used to come back and tell everyone that one of our beer bottle was stolen at night from the terrace..Trust me...we till don't know who took that refilled bottle as that is still a mystery...Aur in saalo ko Nandi Hill bhi tabhi jaana hota tha when they were completely drunk and could not even stand properly..But I don't know how we managed to reach there everytime we decided..Let me mention few of the guys as if I don't do that then it will be injustice on their part..Ravi Gupta, Sushil Kumar Dhaka, Ajeet Pandey, Tanveer Alam, Hemant, Rahul, Ashutosh, Arvind, Rajkumar, Amit Pal and few more...Agar duniya me koi inse bada kamina mile to please do inform me... Saalo ko din raat sirf ladkiyo k alawa sochne ka koi kaam nahi hai..

OMG, I was here to do my MBA which is almost complete now and there are still many who are still thinking if they really studied here or not...Placements ka toh problem hai aur hamesha rahega..Words for those who are waiting for the college placements is that ..start looking for a niche for yourself as the college is not gonna give you anything..Thank God, I am in the safe zone as got something good for myself and sitting peacefully and writing this..

One more thing to mention that yaha aa k sab k sab reliance aur tata indicom k son in law ban gaye hai as most of the time you will find them on the phone..Saalo k paas time toh hai hi nahi..interview dene jaate nahi hai aur din raat phone per chipke rehte hai ladkiyon k saath..tragedy to yeh hai ki becharo ko kuchh milta bhi nahi itna karne k baad..lol....Mere pyaare dost Sushil, Ashutosh, Ajeet aur Ravi Gupta are the toppers of this list...

But trust me yaar, I have spent two of the most fabulous years of my life here with these guys..I never felt homesick as I was with such companions who will never make you feel that there is a sad part also in life...Break ups, family issues kuchh bhi ho bas do char galiya do, 2-3 beer bottles aur 1 packet cigarette... I think these are the best medicines of world jinse koi bi bimari ho theek ho hi jaati hai...Would definitely love to write more about my kamine friend's but time is limited at the moment..Next time onwards I will be writing individually about all these kamina's so that you get to know them personally...

Trust me guys..being with you all is like being in Heaven..Thanks for all the love and support...

Rajan

Relationships

Hey Guys...

Lets talk about one of the most difficult topics...I am talking about relationships..I don't know whether I understand this word or not that is why I would like to discuss it here so that I get to know more about it... I have been going through a lot these days and I sometimes do not understand what goes wrong in a person's relationships that things become so worst that we tend to do something which we never would have even thought about..

Don`t we all come to this world as guests—constantly striving to find the golden rule of a successful rapport with everybody and everything we come across? From birth to death a person`s success or failure is measured by the kind of relationship he/ she has had with elements of this world: people. Nature and beyond it all,with the spirit behind this "relative world". But striking the right chord in a relationship often proves a hard nut to crack.

The world seems to constantly echo with a disconcerting chorus of voices, the result of frustrated relationships between parents and their children, husbands and wives, friends, siblings, in-laws, employees and colleagues—individuals disillusioned with themselves for not being able to relate successfully to their environs.

The most interesting aspect of this scenario is that, today there happens to be no dearth of methods to arrive at that elusive "success" in the act of relating.

I know this is a boring topic to start off at this point of time but I think I need to know this better at the moment..I need your comments and reviews on this and will definitely look forward for more viewpoint from you all friends..

Thanks and Love

Rajan